Graduating Without an MRS Degree

As of today, May 10th, my husband and I have received 3 graduation and 7 wedding invitations.  This is a personal high for us.  Since both of us work with college students, I imagine this record will eventually be broken <shudder>.  Fortunately, I recently sold my first item on eBay.  Perhaps more of our-trash/someone-else’s-treasure can finance all of these occasions.

This weekend as I was preparing a card for one of the weddings, I remembered back to when I was the same age.  As a senior in college, I had been dating a guy for about 6 months, and thought he was ‘the one’.

He wasn’t.

I was dumped about 5 months before I graduated.  I was terrified.  I had convinced myself that I was doomed because, logically, after you graduate from college, you immediately get married and start working on ‘happily ever after’.  This delusion seemed intensified on the campus that I attended where we claimed the ‘ring by spring’ motto as so many private-Christian schools share.

If I could jump in a time machine, I’d sit down and have a pep-talk with myself (without giving TOO much information, so I wouldn’t alter my destiny a-la Back to the Future).  I needed to understand that I was ‘okay’.  And not just ‘okay’, because within the next 5 years I experienced some incredible adventures and met life-long friends – while single.  Then, magically, between the age 26 and 27, I met and married ‘the REAL one’.

I wish for any single person nearing their college graduation day with the, ‘Crap, I’m still single!’ fear to please, please….relax.  Yes, life is going to change dramatically for you in the next month or so and it’s somewhat paralyzing facing this alone.  But don’t let this fear blind you from opportunities.  Take the job 3 states away.  Say ‘yes’ to the overseas mission trip.  Why not fill your planner with a bunch of great volunteering opportunities?  You won’t always have the time or flexibility.  Because when I finally faced my fear and took a risk, it set my life in motion.

I can’t promise you that you’ll meet ‘the one’ anytime soon.  But you have a life to live—AND enjoy.  And?  Chances are you won’t be the only single person at the dozens of weddings you too have been invited to.

“Take the first step in faith.  You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.