Legacy of Love
Today is my in-law’s 36 year wedding anniversary. Aren’t they precious?!
I absolutely adore my in-laws and have always been thankful for the way they have welcomed me into the Foley family. In fact, they were a big part of how I knew Nick was “the one.” As the old saying goes, you don’t just marry the person, you marry the family too. And I knew if I were to marry Nick, I would be blessed to have his family as my family. I have always appreciated the legacy of their marriage, which they have passed down to their children. You know they’ve provided a good example when their kids say, “I want to have a marriage like my mom and dad’s.”
So, in honor of their big day, I decided to share five things I have learned from their relationship.
- Have your own interests and hobbies. My mother-in-law, Janell, is an avid line-dancer and will go out with her girlfriends at least once a week to go dancing. Likewise, my father-in-law, David, has been on a bowling league for years and Thursday nights are reserved for his team. I love how they each have their own interests and I think it makes them appreciate their time together more.
- Be friends. Not only do my in-laws love one another, but by watching them interact you can tell they genuinely like one another. While this may seem like a no-brainer, it makes me sad to admit how many couples I have seen that act as if they can’t stand to be around one another. As I mentioned above, I think it’s important to have your own interests and hobbies, but it’s equally important to be able to have similar interests and things you enjoy doing together. My in-laws really do enjoy spending time together laughing and talking.
- Show affection. This one may be more important to me than to others because my love language is touch, but I love that my in-laws, after 36 years of marriage, still enjoy holding hands, embracing one another, and sneaking kisses when they think nobody is looking.
- Speak highly of one another and never put the other one down. My in-laws are so complimentary to one another, especially when talking to other people. They choose to encourage one another and be each other’s biggest cheerleaders, rather than to criticize.
- Choose to be young at any age. One of the priorities in the Foley family is having a good time, so my in-laws infuse fun into everything they do. We have a blast when we all get together, whether it’s on Sunday nights for family dinner, or taking a road-trip together on the Foley bus. That’s right, they own a bus! In fact, they recently upgraded to this fine beauty and I can’t wait until we take the first trip together.There are so many other great qualities about my in-laws: their generosity, their welcoming nature, what a great job they did raising their children (including my wonderful husband), what great grandparents they are… the list goes on and on. But what I appreciate the most is the legacy they have passed down to my own marriage. Nick and I are so lucky to have such great role models to emulate what a marriage should look like and I will forever be grateful. I can only hope to set the same example for my children and our greatest legacy will be if they hope to emulate our marriage, as well.